How to avoid scam Hookup and dating sites and / or Apps?
We wrote about working hookup sites, apps, and other classic dating sites and different ways to meet people for sex or romance. This time, we decided to write about scam hookup sites and apps , how to recognize real scammers.
Many people message us to complain about various hookup sites. Those complaints are sometimes right, but also sometimes they are not. For example, for most people, red flags will be when they send 20 copy/pasted messages to women/girls and don't land single one night stand, and they become mad and send us a message like "this or that site is a scam, what I can do about that? " well that is not the truth always. In real life, try to pick one line and tell that to 20 random women on the street or in a club, what Your "success rate" will be? Can You guess? Probably 0%. It is pretty the same with starting conversations with women on hookup sites or apps, and Your success will probably be about 0% if You act on that way. It would be best if you put in some effort. We already wrote about some tips for boys and girls, but we will repeat: You need to put in some effort, just like in real life.
Now, Let's talk about scam hookups or dating sites and / or apps:
1) What is and what is NOT a scam site?
2) How scammers can use regular Sites to scam You?
3) How to protect (avoid) from being scammed by the Site or by Personal (scammer)?
1) As we said, the first thing You need to do, and we also do when testing new sites, is to find out the website is a scam or not. A place that has no women profiles, or instead of real women profiles has bots, we can say it is a scam. Sites that have at least 20-30% female profiles are not scamming sites. If You are using such areas, You should switch to some other with a better male tofemale ratio, but You can't say such sites are scam sites. They are not. Their user base is better for women (more choice) than for the male population. No site has more females than males in their members base. We are considering a great site with a lot of chances to get laid, when women have 40+ % of active profiles. The explanation is simple: women have many more "offers" in real life, on social networks, and so on, so they use hookup sites and apps in that percentage, comparing to men. So TL;DR: If you can't find casual sex on some site, that doesn't mean the dating or hookup site is a scam. It can mean You didn't try too hard, You made personal profile looks bad (look for some tips here for creating good online dating/hookup profiles), or some other reason, maybe You are not attractive too much. On the other side, if You can't find single real women on-site, that probably means that the site IS a scam. The best way to find out is very simple: find some women profiles that are not very attractive or maybe not attractive at all, and contact them. If they respond, unlike those hot and gorgeous chicks, then the site is OK. Just those hot women are not interested in You. You need to be realistic, pick girls or women who are in Your league. We are talking about this because of a scenario we seen many times: a guy complains about a scam hookup site, and we know that site is legit. Then we found out that he contacted a thousand hot chicks and got no answer. After a suggestion to contact and try to arrange a one-night stand with some not so attractive, they all change their opinion. To conclude this: You need to know what is the league where You are trying to play. That is how stuff works.
2) Sites can scam You in a few ways, but most commons and dominant is a straightforward principle. Such sites spend a lot of money on various kinds of advertising, search engines, social networks, and so on, you see their advertising everywhere, and they have a large members base, but with only one problem: there are no female members. Or they have them, but only a few percent. Technically this is not a scam, but on the other side, if the site advertises and sends a message like "we have thousands of women in our database," we can treat that as some scam dating/hookup site. Such sites are the most challenging to recognize. Since it is tough for a typical user to recognize such a hookup or dating site, we recommend using various review sites. Crews who have dating/hookup review sites (like we here) have some tactics to find out the place is good or bad, or in other words, is a site with only male members or it is "mixed," and if it is, what percent of females is out there. You gues: more = better! We will not bother You now with the methods we are using, and you can take a look at the list that we are maintaining for almost a decade, a list of hookup sites, apps, and free and paid dating sites. Let's say that we are doing our best to figure out which free sites are worth it and what is a waste of time and which paid sites are good, which are a waste of both: time and money.
Another category are scammers that use good/regular sites. That is usually functioning on the same pattern for the last 20-30 years since the Internet becomes a "tool" for meeting other people for dating, sex, marriage, or whatever. Here is the scenario in few words, so please remember this, and if You see that pattern, just run away: You open Your profile, put a few sentences to make it looks great, some pictures, and so on. After some time, a few hours or days, other sites member contact You. You are making conversation knowing each other, and sometimes it can take weeks, or even months, so You become 'sure' that on the other side is a person interested in YOu. After that, the meeting day is closer and closer, but a person on the other side always has some excuses. For example, You are living too far, she has some personal, family or business problems and so on. After some time, she tells You that she is embarrassed and "she" doesn't have money to come to Your city. Or she has a sick family member that she needs to take care of, or...
The list of "reasons you and that person You understand what we are talking about. They are playing on the "card" of You "mercy" so since You think that that person and You have something serious over the time, You will say "hey, it is not a problem, I will give or borrow You money." In case that You send any money to anyone this way, the chances that You will be scammed are 100%. Actually, 101%. jUST KEEP IN MIND THIS PATTERN: IF AFTER SOME TIME, NO MATER FEW DAYS, FEEKS, MONTHS ANYBODY ASK ANY MONEY FROM YOU, WITHIN ANY REASON IT IS SCAM. People lost 3-4 and 5 figures amounts on that way. An especially older man, who for example find younger women from 3rd world countries, so keep in mind this patter, and You will be safe, never-ever send a single buck to anybody that You didn't meet face to face.
3) To protect, as we explain, is not so complicated. It would be best if you never lost some common sense. Don't believe in fairies. Always keep in mind that "if an offer is so good to be the truth, probably it is not the truth."
We recommend taking some time and read our other texts about find partners for sex or dating online, finding the right sites for that or apps, how to save Your time and nerves, and so on. The world of internet dating and hookups is excellent, but You need to be careful. Many people using social networks to find sex or dating partners. Others prefer and have better results with dating or hookup sites or apps, and some even prefer forums. The idea is that You can find a soulmate, date, or just one night stand sex partner using the Internet but also it is not so easy, so You need to be educated , patient and sooner or later, you will find what You are looking for. For any questions or suggestions, like always, use our contact form, and we will be glad to answer.
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