Top online dating tips for guys who actually want to stand out
Are you looking for love? But don’t know where to start.
Online dating could be your answer but with a growing number of dating apps and hookup sites an endless number of users on those apps do you ever have a chance?
Sometimes swiping an endless stream of dating prospective left or right can be a little overwhelming. Especially if you are not getting replies from the person you want to talk.
So here are the eight tips for you to try if you are a guy and want to secure a date online.
Know what your intentions are
This may seem like an obvious tip which many of us still choose to ignore. Before diving into the ocean of online dating you should know what you are looking for. Whether it’s a casual dating, no-strings-attached, friends with benefits, or a serious relationship you are looking for, be clear about it and create your profile accordingly.
Think from the woman’s perspective
Try putting yourself in the place of your prospective partner. Usually, women get more messages than men, but only a few of these messages stand out. Sometimes due to a large pool of men on dating websites, women tend to be more judgmental and inclined to reject a not-so-perfect guy.
You don’t have to write everything down
I understand you want to impress her. But writing down your traits like you are cool, or you are funny is not going to help. Add some humor in your profile rather than saying that “I am a funny guy and wants to meet someone funny”. Think about what you want to communicate through your profile and who you want to attract instead of flat out saying it.
Don’t write down the strict conditions like “Don’t swipe right if you aren’t adventurous”. This will make you look bossy or harsh person. Love isn’t about judging people. It is about knowing them, caring, and loving them for who they are. Keep it natural and positive.
Your profile picture is more important than you think
You may not like it but all of us are slightly superficial. We all want a good look, attractive, and younger dating partner. Especially in the online dating world, many apps like Tinder allows you to choose someone solely based on his or her picture.
To get a response, don’t just upload your plain and boring passport-like picture. Instead, upload something that shows some personality around who you are.
Like if you love dogs, upload a picture of you with your dogs. Perhaps people with dog phobia are not going to reply to you but that’s what you want. Right? Or you can upload pictures of you playing football, enjoying barbecue night.
Good photos will make your prospective date to wonder. An element of surprise will make them want to know more about you.
You can do better than just sending Hi
Competing in online dating isn’t easy and sending Hi to all prospective dating partners is simply lame. If you are the one who keeps sending messages and getting no or fewer replies, perhaps it is time to sit back, relax, and craft a more personalized message.
According to OkCupid and other most popular online dating services, a message that suggests a common interest, have a much higher chance of getting a reply. You should browse through the profile of the other person to see what they are trying to communicate and what kind of person they are looking for.
Communicate as you will do in real life
Dating online isn’t much different than how we do it in real life. You need to be a gentleman to attract decent ladies. Try to be more creative with your words and avoid physical compliments. Phrases like “ur hot”, “ur so sexy” may make your potential date to hit the delete button.
If you are looking for only sex, sign up for the sites made for this purpose only and don’t waste your time on a dating app.
If you are serious, ask her out!
Don’t just move from one chat messenger to another. If you feel there is some connection, ask her out. It is always better to see the person you met online in real at early as possible. Either this offline-meeting will get you closer or will make you apart. In any case, It is much better than waiting for ‘nothing’.
Act mature
Online dating can be a daunting experience if you are not honest about your intentions or feelings. If you don’t like someone as a potential partner, don’t string along. If you like someone, don’t try to play games with the person. It doesn’t work that way. Being honest and mature can save you or the other person from unnecessary heartache or drama.
